Be nice. God, I hate that term, what if I don’t want to be nice? It’s easier to draw people with honey than hot sauce… is that the term? No, but you understand what I mean. We are currently living in a world of ugly. Kindness and common courtesy are quickly fading as people interact less with each other and more with their devices. I guess your phone doesn’t care if you say hello, your laptop doesn’t give a shit if you smile or say thank you.
I work in an industry that forces me to talk to, motivate, and be nice to people all day long. It’s exhausting. I want to be nice, encouraging and interested all the time but the reality of it is…. I don’t care that much. Let me rephrase that. I CANT care. I can’t care because if I do I will have nothing left to give for the people who do mean something to me. It’s not fair to my daughter or my imaginary boyfriend if I’ve used all my “niceness” on strangers who don’t give a shit about me. We only have so much of us to give away. Unfortunately, most of us overextend ourselves, give it all away, and then get mad when we feel exhausted at the end of the day.
It a vicious cycle that we create for ourselves. But how do we manage it? Fuck if I know honestly, but I do watch people who seem to have balance in their lives and see one common denominator…. the ability to say no. For some of us, that sound is like nails on a chalkboard…. SAY NO?! Risk the potential that someone won’t like me?? News flash they probably don’t like you anyway….. most people just know who they can manipulate and don’t really care who the person that is stupid enough to do what they want.
It’s sad, we sit on our couches and watch other peoples lives unfold on reality shows. They become addicting because we either want to have their lives or are grateful that that ISNT our life. I am as guilty as the next person, trolling the internet seeing what mistakes other people are making so that I can justify my own. Acting as if I know these people that I follow every day while wondering what it would be like to be them for just one day.
And then reality hits…. I am exactly where I am supposed to be. As much as there are days that I want to stay in bed and not speak to another human, that’s not gods plan for me. At least not for today. For today I will keep on keeping on and be true to myself no matter how the people around me want to behave. It’s not personal, it FEELS personal but I promise you we are all just trying to get through this life. To be happy, feel joy, and be free. So if you work in any area of service remember, you CHOSE that job. There is something inside of you that wants to reach out, make a difference and connect with others. No it’s not easy, but it is worth it…. isn’t it?
“That’s the real one in your reflection, without a follow, without a mention, you really pipin’ up* on these niggas you gotta, be nice for what, to these niggas?”-Drake
*getting stronger and more successful, particularly on your own with no help from anybody else-
Keep your chin up, stay strong, and sleep well knowing you are one of the good ones, wanting to make a difference….