“Acting in a casual or disrespectful manner towards someone, DISSING A FRIEND. A light comment with slight disrespect towards an individual”-Urban Dictionary
People are a trip. I never seek out drama or information that isn’t my business, yet such information always makes its way to me. Then once you know. you know. What I find interesting is that while we all know people love to talk, why we feel the overwhelming need to tell and hear other peoples stories.
I am often asked “where is *&^$ or @#%$, my standard answer: “I don’t know”…. Of course, I know. Its just none of your damn business. I don’t tell other peoples stories so don’t ask.
I have a motto that helps when being there for a friend who may be having issues with their men. “No cheating or beating” Which means I promise to do my best to stay neutral and let you vent without judgment. I might give you advise or just listen….. Unless they cheat or beat, then I will step in. So be careful what you tell me.
I try my best to be a friend and treat others with respect and hold my tongue (most of the time). That’s of course unless you ask……
Ironically, I have people that used to be my friend, best friends even who no longer speak to me. No big fight, no real reason. Just bye. I cherish my friendships so all of these break-ups were a lot harder than I thought they’d be. It’s a different type of loss with a friend.
Then I remember “it’s them and not you” and although I say it often to others, it FEELS very different. Maybe it IS me.
But then the most interesting thing was revealed to me. These past friends still follow me on social media, and even read the blog! Now that’s crazy, you don’t want to be my friend but you are interested in my life?
Why? To throw shade. To find something that can be twisted into ME throwing shade on you, so you now can justify not being my friend (but you are the one still keeping tabs on me)? Ooof that’s a lot and reads a little egocentric on my part but I promise you its true.
Modern day social media hacking is easy and like I said information often just comes to me. So then I thought… why not? Why not write a blog and shade the shit out of these individuals….. Because you never feed the beast. And you NEVER want to allow someone to feel relevant in your life when they are not.
Besides its just messy. Nobody likes messy